Never Betray Yourself – Micaela Richmond

Some conversations are just better than others.

Great conversations usually have an element of ease and sincerity, which means that instead of focusing on the mechanics of the conversation, you become deeply attuned to the content — processing and allowing it to add to your life.

I had a conversation like that this morning, and we talked about a life well-lived. He said, “never betray yourself.”

Those three words hold so much behind them, and to really understand them requires introspection and analysis.

First, what does it mean to betray yourself?

I don’t know what I would’ve answered yesterday, but after the day I’ve had, my answer is — you betray yourself when you know what you’re worth, and accept less.

Second, how does betraying yourself relate to other types of betrayal?

I think most betrayal is follows the same pattern — an implicit social contract is breached.

For example, two friends can mutually trust each other, but when one person breaks that trust, it shatters the implicit “best friend confidentiality” contract and the feeling of security associated with it.

Betrayal shatters a person’s trust and feeling of security.

That’s important.

Now, it makes sense why betraying yourself is even worse.

When you betray yourself, not only have you shattered your perception of self, you’ve shattered your stability. You question yourself and wonder if you are capable of what you thought you might be. Everything you spent time building becomes fragile and vulnerable.

Betraying yourself is like opening the door to a robber and welcoming them in, “yes, please come in and cause havoc in my space.

It’s not a good thing, and you’ll never have exactly what you started with.